Gina Mollicone Long | The Blog

IT'S ALL PERFECT
I just lost a huge post for the blog. I was so disappointed because it was "good". But I think that's the point. It was "good" but it lacked truth so the Universe just snapped it up. It's all good. I can see that now. I was thinking that I should rewrite the post but I was caught in the trap of "running out of time". Since I didn't act on my integrity - the Universe did and I am thankful that she did.

Here's what I really want to say today. It's all perfect. Even the seemingly "bad things" in your life. They are perfect for where you need to be right now. I don't know how else to explain this. If it were meant to be any other way then it would be that way. Recently, I have really learned how to finally be present to what is there. I have learned that I have spent a lot of my time looking for what is wrong. The problem is (as pointed out by a wonderful meditation leader) that since there is nothing wrong then I am spending a lot of my time looking for something that isn't there. I have learned that what I need to do is to actually see what IS there and learn to be with that. The perspective shift is huge for me. Learn to see what you have instead of what you don't.

RED ROCKS OF SEDONA
They say that Sedona is a mystical place with concentrated energy. They say that there are energy vortexes in certain locations. I am came out here to link into that energy and see what I could do with it. The trip has been astounding. To understand the divinity of our origins is an easy leap when you stand at the mouth of Boynton Canyon and see the incredible formations of iron and sandstone carved 275 million years ago by the great flood. We hiked to the back of Boynton Canyon early one morning. When we arrived at the very back wall we tried to take some pictures and we were unable to do so. My camera simply would not store any photos. Gianna's camera batteries were dead despite being purchased brand new the day before. Our electronics would not work. It was most bizarre. There was one particular rock that would not allow us to photograph it. As soon as we left the back wall, my camera worked just fine. I can't explain what happened but just that something did. Perhaps it was the magnetic force of the iron in the rocks, but then why would my camera work elsewhere in the canyon? Perhaps it was an energy that I could not comprehend. Suffice to say, it was something. And it brought my awareness to realm of energy and that which we cannot see.

This trip has provided me the opportunity to work with some of my own energy. This work has been so profound that my work and my seminars will never be the same again. I have experienced a major shift in myself. I have had a peek at my soul. It was magnificent. My mind is beginning to understand that what stands in my way is my story. My mind is beginning to understand that stories can easily be rewritten. As I examine my story with an objective mind I am finally able to see the lessons laid out before me. By conscientiously choosing to remain present I can literally feel my own energy shifting and moving. My trip is not over and I cannot wait to see what unfolds in the last two days.

MIRROR MIRROR
I always talk about this concept. Life is just a mirror. Everything that you experience in the "real world" is just a reflection of your inner world. Some quantum physicists can actually explain how the physical world isn't really "real" at all but rather just a physical manifestation of our "real energetic selves". I can't prove this but I believe it at a very intuitive level. If your outer world is, in fact, a reflection of your inner world then it is totally futile to try to change anything on the outside if you are looking for a better (bigger, happier, more fulfilling) outer picture. You must change the inside.

Think about it in a different context. One morning you get up and look in the mirror. Lo and behold your hair is a complete mess. It is totally wild and completely out of place. You don't like this reflection. You want to see a different image in the mirror. It seems silly to suggest that you scream at the mirror, expecting it to change your hair. It seems silly to suggest that you reach over to the mirror and try to move your hair in the picture. It seems silly to take the hairbrush and brush the picture of the hair on the mirror. Doesn't it?

You must actually fix the hair, not the reflection of the hair. Its the same with your life. You must fix your inner world and then your outer reflection will change. It's the only way. Anything else would be silly.

DESPAIR
There was a massacre in Montreal (again) today. I don't read the news or watch the media because I find that it negatively affects me. My reasoning is that if something big enough happens then I will undoubtedly find out about it. That is what exactly happened today. I found out about a tormented 25-yr old who made the choice to shoot other people. After the initial shock, anger and horror wore off, I reflected on this incident. I tried to understand HOW BAD his life must have been for him for him to make this choice. I can't imagine. Out of that space for relating my life to his, I was able to create compassion. Sometimes I think my life is really hard. Sometimes I complain about the difficulties I face or the incidents that occur in my life. Sometimes I feel downright hopeless. Yet I do not make the same choice that he did. So, for him, his experience of his life must have been EVEN WORSE than "my worst day ever". I wouldn't wish that experience on anyone. He must have been suffering at such a level that his only escape was death. I cried. I cried for my responsibility in being part of a world where a fellow human being is allowed to sink so low and slip through our "collective cracks". I cried for my own apathy in not always standing in my integrity when it is challenged for the things that I believe are important in healing our planet. I cried because I know that he is not the only one who is suffering and more "hate" or "retaliation" will not solve this problem. The only thing that will help is love and forgiveness. Everything else will be destructive. Today I will stand for love despite the challenges that come my way. Today, I will not waiver.

THINK ABOUT IT
This was sent to me by a good friend. Just a gentle reminder to how loved you are.

• There are at least two people in this world that you would die for.
• At least 15 people in this world love you in some way.
• The only reason anyone would ever hate you is because they want to be just like you.
• A smile from you can bring happiness to anyone, even if they don't like you.
• Every night, SOMEONE thinks about you before they go to sleep.
• You mean the world to someone.
• You are special and unique.
• Someone that you don't even know exists loves you.
• When you make the biggest mistake ever, something good comes from it.
• When you think the world has turned its back on you take another look.
• Always remember the compliments you received. Forget about the rude remarks.

RESPONSIBILITY
I just got a profound article by Dr. Joe Vitale. The truth of this article rang true to the core of my being. Things have not been the same since. It works. I hope it impacts you in a similar fashion. Cheers!

By Joe Vitale

"Two years ago, I heard about a therapist in Hawaii who cured a complete ward of criminally insane patients--without ever seeing any of them. The psychologist would study an inmate's chart and then look within himself to see how he created that person's illness. As he improved himself, the patient improved.

"When I first heard this story, I thought it was an urban legend. How could anyone heal anyone else by healing himself? How could even the best self-improvement master cure the criminally insane? It didn't make any sense. It wasn't logical, so I dismissed the story.

"However, I heard it again a year later. I heard that the therapist had used a Hawaiian healing process called ho 'oponopono. I had never heard of it, yet I couldn't let it leave my mind. If the story was at all true, I had to know more. I had always understood "total responsibility" to mean that I am responsible for what I think and do. Beyond that, it's out of my hands. I think that most people think of total responsibility that way. We're responsible for what we do, not what anyone else does--but that's wrong.

"The Hawaiian therapist who healed those mentally ill people would teach me an advanced new perspective about total responsibility. His name is Dr. Ihaleakala Hew Len. We probably spent an hour talking on our first phone call. I asked him to tell me the complete story of his work as a therapist. He explained that he worked at Hawaii State Hospital for four years. That ward where they kept the criminally insane was dangerous. Psychologists quit on a monthly basis. The staff called in sick a lot or simply quit. People would walk through that ward with their backs against the wall, afraid of being attacked by patients. It was not a pleasant place to live, work, or visit. "Dr. Len told me that he never saw patients. He agreed to have an office and to review their files. While he looked at those files, he would work on himself. As he worked on himself, patients began to heal.

"'After a few months, patients that had to be shackled were being allowed to walk freely,' he told me. 'Others who had to be heavily medicated were getting off their medications. And those who had no chance of ever being released were being freed.' I was in awe. 'Not only that,' he went on, 'but the staff began to enjoy coming to work. Absenteeism and turnover disappeared. We ended up with more staff than we needed because patients were being released, and all the staff was showing up to work. Today, that ward is closed.' "This is where I had to ask the million dollar question: 'What were you doing within yourself that caused those people to change?'

"'I was simply healing the part of me that created them,' he said.

I didn't understand. Dr. Len explained that total responsibility for your life means that everything in your life- simply because it is in your life--is your responsibility. In a literal sense the entire world is your creation.
"Whew. This is tough to swallow. Being responsible for what I say or do is one thing. Being responsible for what everyone in my life says or does is quite another. Yet, the truth is this: if you take complete responsibility for your life, then everything you see, hear, taste, touch, or in any way experience is your responsibility because it is in your life. This means that terrorist activity, the president, the economy or anything you experience and don't like--is up for you to heal. They don't exist, in a manner of speaking, except as projections from inside you. The problem isn't with them, it's with you, and to change them, you have to change you.

"I know this is tough to grasp, let alone accept or actually live. Blame is far easier than total responsibility, but as I spoke with Dr. Len, I began to realize that healing for him and in ho 'oponopono means loving yourself. "If you want to improve your life, you have to heal your life. If you want to cure anyone, even a mentally ill criminal you do it by healing you. "I asked Dr. Len how he went about healing himself. What was he doing, exactly, when he looked at those patients' files?

"'I just kept saying, 'I'm sorry' and 'I love you' over and over again,' he explained.

"That's it?

"That's it.

"Turns out that loving yourself is the greatest way to improve yourself, and as you improve yourself, you improve your world.

"Let me give you a quick example of how this works: one day, someone sent me an email that upset me. In the past I would have handled it by working on my emotional hot buttons or by trying to reason with the person who sent the nasty message.

"This time, I decided to try Dr. Len's method. I kept silently saying, 'I'm sorry' and 'I love you,' I didn't say it to anyone in particular. I was simply evoking the spirit of love to heal within me what was creating the outer circumstance.

"Within an hour I got an e-mail from the same person. He apologized for his previous message. Keep in mind that I didn't take any outward action to get that apology. I didn't even write him back. Yet, by saying 'I love you,' I somehow healed within me what was creating him.

"I later attended a ho 'oponopono workshop run by Dr. Len. He's now 70 years old, considered a grandfatherly shaman, and is somewhat reclusive. He praised my book, The Attractor Factor. He told me that as I improve myself, my book's vibration will raise, and everyone will feel it when they read it. In short, as I improve, my readers will improve.

"'What about the books that are already sold and out there?' I asked.

"'They aren't out there,' he explained, once again blowing my mind with his mystic wisdom. 'They are still in you.' In short, there is no out there. It would take a whole book to explain this advanced technique with he depth it deserves. "Suffice It to say that whenever you want to improve anything in your life, there's only one place to look: inside you. When you look, do it with love."

HUMOUR
Humour is an important part of life and those who laugh often seem to live lighter. My humourous thought of the day has to do with parenting. I caught myself "counting to 3" with my kids the other day and I had to laugh. Parents are incredibly versatile. Take for example their ability to count to 3 in numerous fashions:
1) There is the standard 1,2,3
2) The "warning count" which is always preceded by "I am going to count to 3" and then a count
3) The "slow count" with extra emphasis on the "1" along with increasing volume
4) The "suspense count" where you must wait at least 30 seconds between saying "2" and "3"
5) The "don't make me say 3" count which means that you never actually say the number "3" so you don't have to follow through on the threat
Maybe I can add this to my resume!

C-A-N
These are words that can help you do anything. This video is so inspirational and amazing to watch if you have ever felt like giving up or if you think that your life is a little hard. You really can do anything but you have to believe! It is amazing to contemplate what is being accomplished in this video by both the father and the son. Their paradigm of POSSIBILITY is enormous. I hope that it inspires you!

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